Myths About Male Masturbation

Male masturbation remains a sore point for many women in a relationship, by virtue of the fact that it serves as a perceived reflection of their own failings to achieve sexual satisfaction for their partner.

The topic of male masturbation has been a fiercely contested and controversial one in recent years, primarily as a consequence to the concerns raised as to the impact it may have upon a man’s sex drive with a partner.

In the first instance, masturbation is a perfectly healthy and natural thing for anyone to do, as it allows them to indulge in a bit of pleasure without the need for censure, guilt or rebuke. The fact that they are able to please themselves for the sole and exclusive benefit of themselves is also a major advantage for masturbators. When trying to engage in sexual intercourse with a partner, there are concerns of satisfying them and ensuring that their needs and whims are catered for. As a consequence, masturbation is seen by many men as a safer, more pleasurable alternative. Indeed, many men will masturbate even when in a long standing, committed and sexually active as well as fulfilling relationship for these very reasons.

The following is an overview of some of the myths and mistaken beliefs widely held about masturbation.

Masturbation is used as a means of emotional blackmail in a relationship

Many women report that they feel sexually inadequate and suffer a tremendous blow to their self-esteem as a consequence of discovery of the fact that their partner engages in solo sexual activity. Women feel that they have somehow been a bad wife or girlfriend, and therefore it is their sexual prowess which is under the microscope as a consequence.

Some women have also argued that masturbation constitutes a form of undue and underhand pressure, as they are unable to enjoy in the activity. This is not true on several fronts, which are listed as follows:

  1. Masturbation does not need to be a secretive and individual activity, and indeed, it can be done for the mutual benefit of both partners, perhaps through mutual masturbation or one partner observing the other.
  2. The argument that masturbation is a form of pressure by virtue of the withdrawal of affection is a bit of a stretch. The same argument could be made of any activity that a male undertook for their benefit, such as golf or snooker.

Masturbation encourages isolation and weakens a relationship

There can be no denying of the fact that one of the biggest attractions associated with masturbation in general is that it is by definition, a solo act. Therefore, it provides the male with some much needed alone time, a respite from the sometimes emotionally overwhelming and draining commitment that is being in a full-time relationship. As such, masturbation can be perceived to be seen as something of a necessary evil, in that it allows for the couple to spend some time apart without any degree of malice or judgement involved. Consequently, masturbation can also serve to help a male partner come to explore his fantasies and sexual desires, thereby providing him with some impetus to then experiment with his partner.

Masturbation makes a male a lazy lover

Masturbation when utilised properly can actually help a man learn and control his ejaculatory signals, meaning that he can have better control over the moment of his orgasm. In a relationship this can be of significance because it means the couple can aim to climax together for ultimate intimacy. The fact that masturbation also aids with premature ejaculation is another significant benefit that cannot be easily dismissed!